TED英语演讲稿二十几岁不可挥霍的光阴附翻译演讲稿doc.docx
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wheniwasinmy20s,isawmyveryfirstpsychotherapyclient.iwasaph.d.studentinclinicalpsychologyatberkeley.shewasa26-year-oldwomannamedalex.nowalexwalkedintoherfirstsessionwearingjeansandabigslouchytop,andshedroppedontothecouchinmyofficeandkickedoffherflatsandtoldmeshewastheretotalkaboutguyproblems.nowwheniheardthis,iwassorelieved.myclassmategotanarsonistforherfirstclient.(laughter)andigotatwentysomethingwhowantedtotalkaboutboys.thisithoughticouldhandle.
butididn’thandleit.withthefunnystoriesthatalexwouldbringtosession,itwaseasyformejusttonodmyheadwhilewekickedthecandowntheroad.“thirty’sthenew20,”alexwouldsay,andasfarasicouldtell,shewasright.workhappenedlater,marriagehappenedlater,kidshappenedlater,evendeathhappenedlater.twentysomethingslikealexandihadnothingbuttime.
butbeforelong,mysupervisorpushedmetopushalexaboutherlovelife.ipushedback.
isaid,“sure,she’sdatingdown,she’ssleepingwithaknucklehead,butit’snotlikeshe’sgoingtomarrytheguy.”
andthenmysupervisorsaid,“notyet,butshemightmarrythenextone.besides,thebesttimetoworkonalex’smarriageisbeforeshehasone.”
that’swhatpsychologistscallan“aha!
”moment.thatwasthemomentirealized,30isnotthenew20.yes,peoplesettledownlaterthantheyusedto,butthatdidn’tmakealex’s20sadevelopmentaldowntime.thatmadealex’s20sadevelopmentalsweetspot,andweweresittingthereblowingit.thatwaswhenirealizedthatthissortofbenignneglectwasarealproblem,andithadrealconsequences,notjustforalexandherlovelifebutforthecareersandthefamiliesandthefuturesoftwentysomethingseverywhere.
thereare50milliontwentysomethingsintheunitedstatesrightnow.we’retalkingabout15percentofthepopulation,or100percentifyouconsiderthatnoone’sgettingthroughadulthoodwithoutgoingthroughtheir20sfirst.
raiseyourhandifyou’reinyour20s.ireallywanttoseesometwentysomethingshere.oh,yay!
y’all’sawesome.ifyouworkwithtwentysomethings,youloveatwentysomething,you’relosingsleepovertwentysomethings,iwanttosee—okay.awesome,twentysomethingsreallymatter.
soispecializeintwentysomethingsbecauseibelievethateverysingleoneofthose50milliontwentysomethingsdeservestoknowwhatpsychologists,sociologists,neurologistsandfertilityspecialistsalreadyknow:
thatclaimingyour20sisoneofthesimplest,yetmosttransformative,thingsyoucandoforwork,forlove,foryourhappiness,maybeevenfortheworld.
thisisnotmyopinion.thesearethefacts.weknowthat80percentoflife’smostdefiningmomentstakeplacebyage35.thatmeansthateightoutof10ofthedecisionsandexperiencesand“aha!
”momentsthatmakeyourlifewhatitiswillhavehappenedbyyourmid-30s.peoplewhoareover40,don’tpanic.thiscrowdisgoingtobefine,ithink.weknowthatthefirst10yearsofacareerhasanexponentialimpactonhowmuchmoneyyou’regoingtoearn.weknowthatmorethanhalfofamericansaremarriedorarelivingwithordatingtheirfuturepartnerby30.weknowthatthebraincapsoffitssecondandlastgrowthspurtinyour20sasitrewiresitselfforadulthood,whichmeansthatwhateveritisyouwanttochangeaboutyourself,nowisthetimetochangeit.weknowthatpersonalitychangesmoreduringyour20sthanatanyothertimeinlife,andweknowthatfemalefertilitypeaksatage28,andthingsgettrickyafterage35.soyour20sarethetimetoeducateyourselfaboutyourbodyandyouroptions.
sowhenwethinkaboutchilddevelopment,weallknowthatthefirstfiveyearsareacriticalperiodforlanguageandattachmentinthebrain.it’satimewhenyourordinary,day-to-daylifehasaninordinateimpactonwhoyouwillbecome.butwhatwehearlessaboutisthatthere’ssuchathingasadultdevelopment,andour20sarethatcriticalperiodofadultdevelopment.
butthisisn’twhattwentysomethingsarehearing.newspaperstalkaboutthechangingtimetableofadulthood.researcherscallthe20sanextendedadolescence.journalistscoinsillynicknamesfortwentysomethingslike“twixters”and“kidults.”it’strue.asaculture,wehavetrivializedwhatisactuallythedefiningdecadeofadulthood.
leonardbernsteinsaidthattoachievegreatthings,youneedaplanandnotquiteenoughtime.isn’tthattrue?
sowhatdoyouthinkhappenswhenyoupatatwentysomethingontheheadandyousay,“youhave10extrayearstostartyourlife”?
nothinghappens.youhaverobbedthatpersonofhisurgencyandambition,andabsolutelynothinghappens.
andtheneveryday,smart,interestingtwentysomethingslikeyouorlikeyoursonsanddaughterscomeintomyofficeandsaythingslikethis:
“iknowmyboyfriend’snogoodforme,butthisrelationshipdoesn’tcount.i’mjustkillingtime.”ortheysay,“everybodysaysaslongasigetstartedonacareerbythetimei’m30,i’llbefine.”
butthenitstartstosoundlikethis:
“my20sarealmostover,andihavenothingtoshowformyself.ihadabetterrésuméthedayafterigraduatedfromcollege.”
andthenitstartstosoundlikethis:
“datinginmy20swaslikemusicalchairs.everybodywasrunningaroundandhavingfun,butthensometimearound30itwaslikethemusicturnedoffandeverybodystartedsittingdown.ididn’twanttobetheonlyoneleftstandingup,sosometimesithinkimarriedmyhusbandbecausehewastheclosestchairtomeat30.”
wherearethetwentysomethingshere?
donotdothat.
okay,nowthatsoundsalittleflip,butmakenomistake,thestakesareveryhigh.whenalothasbeenpushedtoyour30s,thereisenormousthirtysomethingpressuretojump-startacareer,pickacity,partnerup,andhavetwoorthreekidsinamuchshorterperiodoftime.manyofthesethingsareincompatible,andasresearchisjuststartingtoshow,simplyharderandmorestressfultodoallatonceinour30s.
thepost-millennialmidlifecrisisisn’tbuyingaredsportscar.it’srealizingyoucan’thavethatcareeryounowwant.it’srealizingyoucan’thavethatchildyounowwant,oryoucan’tgiveyourchildasibling.toomanythirtysomethingsandfortysomethingslookatthemselves,andatme,sittingacrosstheroom,andsayabouttheir20s,“whatwasidoing?
whatwasithinking?
”
iwanttochangewhattwentysomethingsaredoingandthinking.
here’sastoryabouthowthatcango.it’sastoryaboutawomannamedemma.at25,emmacametomyofficebecauseshewas,inherwords,havinganidentitycrisis.shesaidshethoughtshemightliketoworkinartorentertainment,butshehadn’tdecidedyet,soshe’dspentthelastfewyearswaitingtablesinstead.becauseitwascheaper,shelivedwithaboyfriendwhodisplayedhistempermorethanhisambition.andashardasher20swere,herearlylifehadbeenevenharder.sheoftencriedinoursessions,butthenwouldcollectherselfbysaying,“youcan’tpickyourfamily,butyoucanpickyourfriends.”
welloneday,emmacomesinandshehangsherheadinherlap,andshesobbedformostofthehour.she’djustboughtanewaddressbook,andshe’dspentthemorningfillinginhermanycontacts,butthenshe’dbeenleftstaringatthatemptyblankthatcomesafterthewords“incaseofemergency,pleasecall....”shewasnearlyhystericalwhenshelookedatmeandsaid,“who’sgoingtobethereformeifigetinacarwreck?
who’sgoingtotakecareofmeifihavecancer?
”
nowinthatmoment,ittookeverythingihadnottosay,“iwill.”butwhatemmaneededwasn’tsometherapistwhoreally,reallycared.emmaneededabetterlife,andiknewthiswasherchance.ihadlearnedtoomuchsinceifirstworkedwithalextojustsittherewhileemma’sdefiningdecadewentparadingby.
sooverthenextweeksandmonths,itoldemmathreethingsthateverytwentysomething,maleorfemale,deservestohear.
first,itoldemmatoforgetabouthavinganidentitycrisisandgetsomeidentitycapital.bygetidentitycapital,imeandosomethingthataddsvaluetowhoyouare.dosomethingthat’saninvestmentinwhoyoumightwanttobenext.ididn’tknowthefutureofemma’scareer,andnooneknowsthefutureofwork,butidoknowthis:
identitycapitalbegetsidentitycapital.sonowisthetimeforthatcross-countryjob,thatinternship,thatstartupyouwanttotry.i’mnotdiscountingtwentysomethingexplorationhere,butiamdiscountingexplorationthat’snotsupposedtocount,which,bytheway,isnotexploration.that’sprocrastination.itoldemmatoexploreworkandmakeitcount.
second,itoldemmathattheurbantribeisoverrated.bestfriendsaregreatforgivingridestotheairport,buttwentysomethingswhohuddletogetherwithlike-mindedpeerslimitwhotheyknow,whattheyknow,howtheythink,howtheyspeak,andwheretheywork.thatnewpieceofcapital,thatnewpersontodatealmostalwayscomesfromoutsidetheinnercircle.newthingscomefromwhatarecalledourweakties,ourfriendsoffriendsoffriends.soyes,halfoftwentysomethingsareun-orunder-employed.buthalfaren’t,andweaktiesarehowyougetyourselfintothatgroup.halfofnewjobsareneverposted,soreachingouttoyourneighbor’sbossishowyougetthatun-postedjob.it’snotcheating.it’sthescienceofhowinformationspreads.
lastbutnotleast,emmabelievedthatyoucan’tpickyourfamily,butyoucanpickyourfriends.nowthiswastrueforhergrowingup,butasatwentysomething,soonemmawouldpickherfamilywhenshepartneredwithsomeoneandcreatedafamily
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